Posted on | november 20, 2014 | No Comments
I’ve recently been watching a television show called ‘the Dog Whisperer’ that stars Cesar Milan – and it’s about the rehabilitation of dogs and the training of human beings (owners) to enable them to effectively care for their dogs. What is fascinating about this show is that Cesar Milan is very perceptive and works with that which we in Desteni refers to as ‘resonance’ or ‘presence’ – and the basic principle he shares throughout the shows is always the same – you create your relationship with your dog in quantum time – meaning: What you think, feel, or perceive in your relationship with your dog is not the creative force – instead you create the relationship immediately with WHO YOU ARE – you create with your very beingness presence – the HOW – of your approach to a particular situation.
Let me give you an example: In one of the shows Cesar Milan is sent to assist and support a woman that have difficulties with her dog – the problem being that her dog is very fearful and nervous around people. The story is that she saved the dog as a puppy from the streets – and ever since she took him into her care – he’s been nervous, fearful and had difficulties bonding with and trusting other people. When the dog meets someone new – he’ll most cower or try to run away.
When Cesar Milan first enters the situation he asks the owner some questions and looks at the basic physical relationship between the human and the dog – and in this show he could see that the reason the dog was afraid was due to how the owner felt guilt and remorse that her dog experienced fear – as well as due to the fact that her dog had spent the initial parts of it’s life on the streets. What this created on a quantum physical level was an acceptance and nourishing of the dogs current state of being – and instead of supporting the dog to be fearless – the owner supported the dog to continue it’s obsession with fear – simply because the owner accepted and allowed that behavior and supported it through the behavior of validating it as a real and valid cause of living insecurity and fearfulness.
Cesar Milan then showed the woman (owner) how she could re-create the relationship through standing as a point of support for her dog – stable, calm and directive (calm assertive as Cesar puts it) – and in that state of being taking the dog out and assisting it to challenge it’s fears – and this approach turned out to be very effective.
So, what I could see here and also relate to is that we create our world through WHO WE ARE – it’s the presence of ourselves – that presence which we resonate and live that creates our lives – and this is also something that can be applied to process and what we’re walking in relation to the mind. Because an interesting point that I’ve noticed – is that we sometimes expect the mind to change because we ‘say it in our minds’ – for example “stop now!” – when obviously – the mind can’t be directed and moved in that dimension of words spoken in the mind – real change takes place when we literally STAND as the change within ourselves – when we LIVE the change – and STAND as the word which we see must be developed within ourselves for us to move forward and transcend a particular point.
Let’s take the example of fear – in directing an experience of fear it’s not enough to just say ‘stop’ to the fear – because we’ve trained our physical bodies and ourselves on a physical level to respond to and be conditioned within fear – thus what we’re not immediately aware of is that when we go into fear – our shoulders will start slouching, our head will nod downwards slightly, and our muscles will constrict in certain parts of our body – and if we want to change the fear experience within ourselves – what is required is not only that we change what comes up in our mind – but also that we direct and re-align our very physical expression and participation in the moment; that we straighten up – pull our shoulders back – and that we dare to look up – face and walk through the moment as it presents itself here. How we really live and exist is thus not something that we’re able to see only through observing what we think – we must also pay attention to and observe our physical actual participation – the resonance and presence we stand as in the moment – and in order for the change to be genuine – we must ‘believe’ or ‘live’ the change in us and then take it through into real physical expression; Meaning it’s not enough to merely change how we move physically – we must also stand as that word within ourselves (for example self-confidence) and then express it through our physicals – thus re-aligning our presence and our way of dealing with and moving with life utilizing the stable assistance and support of our human physical bodies.
Thus – in stopping a particular construct and aspect of the mind – it’s important that we take into account and look at the three ingredients of self-creation; Thought, Word and Deed – our Thought being our inner process of self-correction where we change how we think about the point – our Word being the direction and movement of ourselves in the moment – the Who We Are – and the Deed – being us living that Who We Are into the physical – standing as the word we see would assist and support us in walking through and transcending a particular pattern.
Cesar Milan effectively shows how through aligning and changing our Deeds – we’re at the same time able to change the Thoughts and the Words we live – when we step into a new way living – and push ourselves to physically live and create ourselves as a word – and within that deliberately re-create our physical presence and participation – we equally support ourselves to transform on a inner level – which shows the principle: As within so without – and equally – so without so within.
Posted on | november 17, 2014 | 1 Comment
Today I listened to an interview called: “How do you see time?” – which covered ‘time’ – and I will not delve deeper into the specifics of the interview but rather share what I realized – and what I could see that I require to specify and work with further.
So – time – most of us – me included – tend to never be in-time because we’re mostly out-of-time – meaning: We’re not HERE in breath with time (IN-time) but somewhere else, struggling to create the future we want, or worrying that we’ll experience a future that we don’t want to have. This is because we tend to define the future, our fantasies, and wants within a positive energy charge – and our past within a negative energy charge – and because of that we strive towards the future and try to avoid the past.
Thus – what I will practice from here on is applying myself HERE – and pushing myself to remain IN-time – instead of OUT-of-time – to remain IN-breath – instead of being OUT-of-breath – and this is as I see it something that I simply have to practice and will myself to live until it becomes an automated state of being – and here I must will and discipline myself to really just be HERE and function with what is HERE – and remain clear within my principles and why it is that I am HERE in this life – why it is that I’ve decided to walk – live and apply myself in my life – and that I am doing it for LIFE and what is BEST for all – and in that principle – in my goals there can’t be any room for fear or desire – instead I must push myself to utilize each moment that arise HERE and make the most of my LIFE – and I am only able to make the most of my life if I live my life – and I can only live my life in this breath HERE.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that life exists in my mind and in my future – and I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame time – and project my experience of myself as not being grounded and stable in the physical on time – in believing that it’s time that causes me to go into and as a state of being unstable – and wearisome in this moment here – instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that it’s not about time – and that it’s not about my life – it’s about who I am in relationship to and as my human physical body – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not pursue and practice me grounding myself in every moment in my physical body – and deliberately bringing myself back here when I see that I’ve gone into some projection in my mind – and realize that in order to live to my fullest potential I require to be HERE – live HERE – and apply myself HERE
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that the solution for my life exists in my mind – and in reaching for and fantasizing about the dreams I have in my mind – instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that the solution is here – with me – with who I am in relationship to my life and my mind in every moment of breath – and thus I push and will myself – and discipline myself to remain here – to stop going into projections in the mind and to live with and as every moment here
I realize that it’s not effective living as a dreamer – and trying to prevent a future that doesn’t exist – and I instead realize that it’s effective to live every moment to it’s fullest – to direct myself in every moment and make sure that I make the most of each and every breath
I commit myself to discipline myself to remain with and as breath – and immediately stop projections as they come up within me – to breathe through fear of the future – and immediately bring myself back here – and I commit myself to make this a automated behavior and something that I apply effortlessly
I commit myself to develop courage to walk through the fear of the future – and make the decisions that I resist – walk the decisions that I resist – and face the unknown – and walk into the unknown – and not accept and allow myself to cower and diminish myself – but instead straighten out my back – pull my cheek up and walk into the future – and face it
I commit myself to develop self-discipline – and stop fear and stress as it arise within me – and instead walk my decision fully and completely – walk not for myself but for humanity and for a life that is best for all – to remove self-interest and make me and my life an instrument of life
I commit myself to remove self-interest from my decision making and instead look at what is best for all – to remove the concept of ‘my life’ and instead make my life a WE – and instrument of the WE to come to it’s fullest and most optimal expression